If you have a parent over 70, this episode could save your family $35,000 and a year of your lives. A dementia caregiving roadmap from someone who's lived it.
Before Your Parent's Dementia Diagnosis: 4 Things Every Family Must Do NOW (From a Daughter Who's Lived It)
If you have a parent over 70, this episode could save your family $35,000, a year of your life, and the kind of stress that breaks marriages and fractures families.
After four years of navigating dementia caregiving for multiple family members — including her mother-in-law with Alzheimer's, her father-in-law with vascular dementia, and now signs in her own family — Shelly Niehaus is sharing the proactive caregiving roadmap she wishes someone had handed her family before "the phone call."
This is the episode every adult child with an aging parent needs to hear — before a dementia diagnosis lands in your lap.
Most dementia and caregiving resources are built for families already in crisis. This one is different. This one is for the daughter, son, or spouse who has felt the flutter in their stomach but doesn't know where to start. The one quietly watching. The one quietly worrying. The one who doesn't have a plan — yet.
In this deeply personal episode, Shelly walks you through the 4 areas of dementia caregiving you cannot avoid — and how to start on every single one of them today, without a diagnosis, without a family meeting, and without anyone in your family agreeing that something is wrong.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Mark and Shelly built the Dementia Caregiving Readiness Guide so YOUR family doesn't have to learn this the hard way. It's the roadmap they wish someone had handed them six years ago — 15 steps across all 4 areas, in the order you actually need them. Plain language. Exactly what to do, what to ask, and who to call.
If you take ONE action this week, let it be this.
👉 Download free at: resources.fortivuscares.com/guide
Whether you're in the thick of caregiving or just starting to feel that flutter — this guide is for you. Share it with your siblings. Share it with a friend whose parents are aging. Someone in your world needs this right now.
Your assignment this week:
Pick the area that made your stomach drop while you were listening. The one you've been quietly avoiding. The one you've been telling yourself you'll get to someday.
Take ONE action this week:
If you don't know where to start, start with legal. Before that window closes.
Mentioned in this episode:
📋 The Dementia Caregiving Readiness Guide (FREE) — The roadmap Mark and I wish someone had handed us before that phone call. 15 steps across 4 areas, in the order you actually need them. Plain language. Exactly what to do and what to ask.
👉 Grab it at resources.fortivuscares.com/guide
🙏 The Rooted Gathering — A free weekly prayer call for women in midlife. Tuesday mornings, 8am MT, 30 minutes on Zoom. The community that carried me through this year. Always room for one more. Sign up at midlifemadesimplepodcast.com
📱 Follow Shelly on Instagram: @shellyniehaus — where I'm documenting all of it openly: caregiving, building Fortivus, the next chapter
🏢 Learn more about Fortivus — the work Mark and I are building to help families navigate dementia caregiving — at fortivuscares.com
Thank you. For 185 episodes of showing up. For the messages. For the prayers. For trusting me with your time and your ears and your hearts.
You have truly changed my life.
God isn't finished with your story. And He isn't finished with mine either.
I'll see you soon. 🤍
— Shelly